After reading

Theme: The story reminds us that there are enough disappointments in our life. Instead of seeking the bad, we should focus on the beauty and wonder around us.

Question: Should we change ourselves in love?

We need to acknowledge that we should pay more attention to the beauty, especially in intimate relationships. But we also need to bravely find the problems or express our requests, otherwise we’ll feel overwhelmed when we face troubles and conflicts.

So do you agree with the husband's approach in the story? Don’t have anything on his list. Just says his wife is lovely and wonderful. He doesn’t want her to change anything for him. Actually, his starting point is good. But it doesn’t mean his wife is perfect in this relationship. Because no one is perfect in the world.

So should we change ourselves in love if our flaws are pointed out by other? In my opinion, someone who likes you can see your strengths, while someone who loves you would like to explore and appreciate your shinning points, they can also understand your efforts. Meanwhile he or she can recognize your potential and flaws and then encourage you to change yourself to be a better person as well as live a better life.

Talking about changing, I make a chart to sort these two kinds of people.

Those who truly love you persist altruism in intimate relationships, they won't control you under the purpose of "doing what's best for you." Instead of commending and depriving you the right to choose, they will support, guide and respect you. Then they will be patient to encourage and inspire you when you feel upset so that you can pursue your goals constantly. Besides you can beat depression and be more confident to develop yourself. What’s more, the most important thing is to strengthen the better intimate relationship.

So if you are in an intimate relationship, which one would you choose to be? I hope we all can be the first one.

2025-06-09

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