In over a dozen years as a stress consultant, the most pervasive and
destructive mental tendencies I've seen is that of focusing on what we
want instead of what we have. It doesn't seem to make any difference how
much we have; we just keep expanding our list of desires, which
guarantees we will remain dissatisfied. The mind-set that says
"I'll be happy when this desire is fulfilled" is the same
mind-set that will repeat itself once that desire is met. A friend of
ours closed escrow on his new home on a Sunday. The very next time we
saw him he was talking about his next house that was going to be even
bigger. He isn't alone. Most of us do the very same thing. We want this
or that. If we don't get what we want, we keep thinking about all that
we don't have — and we remain dissatisfied. If we do get what we want,
we simply recreate the same thinking in our new circumstances. So,
despite getting what we want, we still remain unhappy. Happiness can't
be found when we are yearning for new desires. Luckily, there
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The passage discusses the common tendency of people to focus on what they want rather than appreciating what they already have,which leads to chronic dissatisfaction.This mindset is pervasive and destructive,as it causes people to constantly expand their desires regardless of how much they already possess.The author illustrates this point with an example of a friend who,upon getting a new house,immediately started thinking about an even bigger one.This behavior is typical of most people,who remain dissatisfied whether they achieve their desires or not.The passage concludes that happiness cannot be found when one is constantly yearning for new desires.
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